I agree that human nature is pretty rough around the edges. I agree that meanness and insecurity are intrinsic pieces of our personality. I agree that, more often than not, we think hurtful/cruel things. And I certainly agree that life can be dark and messy and complicated.
I am not asking you ignore these things. In fact, I am asking you to consider them to put your darkness in the light so you can take a long, hard look at it. Maybe even laugh at it.
Each one of us has messy, mucky lives. As much as we’d like it to be, life is not a neat little package. It is full of fear. Fear of rejection, fear of disapproval, fear of failure, fear of whatever-it-is for you.
It is human to fear. It is human because, deep down, we know we aren’t perfect. And that scares us because it sure feels like we need to be sometimes, doesn’t it? It is why we question ourselves so often: What will my friends think? How could I be so stupid? Why would my parents say that to me?
But, to be blunt: Screw human nature.
Seriously. We can wallow in our imperfections or we can actively work to be better. We can think mean thoughts, but we can also go out and do kind things. We can stand around in the dark or we can look for the light.
As Albus Dumbledore says, “Happiness can be found in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.” Sure, human nature has some problems. But I like to live the solution. I invite you to do the same.